Helping Someone Who is Grieving

What You Can Do To Help

  • Encourage expression of thoughts and feelings by trying “Do you feel like talking?” “I don’t know what to say, but I care.” “Please don’t worry if you cry in front of me.”
  • Help create rituals
  • Help recall good times
  • Help put regrets into perspective
  • Urge person to look to their faith community and/or a grief professional
  • Encourage person to consider a support group
  • Plan for difficult times/dates (anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, mealtimes)
  • Help clean out loved one’s things and use time to reminisce
  • Suggest writing a letter to the loved one, or keeping a journal
  • Don’t be afraid to have a good time or to laugh
  • Share favorite quotations, words of encouragement
  • Encourage person to take care of their health
  • Help shop, cook, write thank you notes
  • Be patient. Grief takes time. Avoid saying things like “you should be getting on with your life.”
  • Just sit